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Many women - and probably quite a lot - suffer from a guilty conscience and nagging feeling that, in their past, they have done one or more shameful things for which they really ought to have been given a good telling-off and then been properly punished.

 

And by "properly punished" I mean had their bottom smacked and made to feel very, small, chastened and subdued before they could genuinely say "sorry" and be forgiven.

 

Such feelings are, of course, commonly suppressed; and countless women tell themselves not to be so silly and that the whole idea is totally impractical.  Which means that the nagging feelings of guilt linger on.  And in some cases - whether deliberately or subconsciously - the women try to devise their own little methods of trying to punish themselves, which can easily be both dysfunctional and also ineffective in assuaging their guilt and remorse.

 

There are other women (or they may well be the same ones) who have come to recognise that, when they were younger, they developed some bad habits which are now causing them serious problems as their responsibilities increase (and they become more adept at hiding their habits or bullying people into not challenging them).

 

Some of these women may even have read the blog dated 4 June 2017 on this website.

 

The problem is that, while identifying bad habits as the root causes of problems is an essential first step, it does not, in itself, cure the problem.

 

By their very nature, bad habits that have become deeply engrained may be difficult to stop.

 

Experience has shown that traditional corporal punishment, applied sensibly, firmly and fairly, is a very effective method of changing attitudes and modifying behaviour.

 

It follows that women who have developed harmful bad habits may find that they NEED to be given corporal punishment in order to help them change their attitudes and mend their ways.

 

HOWEVER...

 

... THERE IS SOMETIMES A SNAG.

 

In fact, three are not uncommon:

 

1.  Whereas some women feel strongly that a proper spanking must be given on their bare bottom -to make then feel properly humbled and subdued - others have strong ethical objections to baring their bottom even for solely disciplinary purposes.

 

2.  Some women cannot afford to have distinctive cane marks visible across their bottom, even for a short time.

 

3.  Some women find the prospect of a caning too frightening because either they have never received one before or, if they have been caned before, they felt the punishment was imposed in an abusive and.or sadistic manner.

 

SO, IS THERE A WAY ROUND THIS?

 

OF COURSE THERE IS.

 

The ABC system works perfectly well for pupils who want to keep their bottom covered for a spanking.  (And the cane actually works better through a thin, tight layer of clothing).

 

A wooden clothes brush or a leather strap can be used instead of a cane.  The flat surface does not leave such distinctive marks.

 

In fact, I have recently come to realise that a specially devised leather belt-strap that I made is far more effective than I had first supposed.  "Getting the strap" with attendant waiting, formalities and bending over can be made to seem pretty much as serious as "getting the cane".

 

(The strap is more effective than a slipper because it is longer, whippier, and FAR easier to apply than a cumbersome slipper.  If the strokes are given through clothing their force can easily be increased, slightly, to compensate for the pupil's bottom being slightly protected.)

 

 

 

For many women, there comes a time when some of the habits they had formed at the age of 18 are causing them problems.  Many sense they may be making things difficult for themselves, but can't always see precisely why.  Very often, a careful analysis will show that the root causes are habits they developed as children or teenagers which are dysfunctional.

 

Exanples might include poor time-keeping; erratic sleeping patterns; late-rising; procrastination; not keeping to agreed plans; persistently telling "little lies" as excuses; frequent binge drinking; poor diet; and so on.

 

Bad habits such as these can cause serious problems as time passes because:

(1) increasing responsibilities create more pressure to deliver good performance;

(2) with practice and rising seniority, we all get better at hiding our bad habits or becoming complacent and pretending they are merely little eccentricities.

 

Experience suggests that some woman in their 20s or early 30s may be especially at risk.  These are women who experienced a sudden change in their disciplinary arrangements when they were growing up.  The effect of a sudden and dramatic change in a child's disciplinary framework can be confusion - and the need for the child to quickly improvise her own rules of conduct for survival.  She may then become fiercely stubborn in defending such rules/habits; even if they are no longer appropriate. 

 

Worse, she may not even be aware of just how stubborn and irrational she has become in insisting that her bad habits are normal and part of her character.  

 

What can be done?

 

The Senior Tutor recommends an ABC check-up to analyse problem areas and looks for root causes in deeply-engrained bad habits that have become established over the years.

 

This in itself may be very useful, in part.

 

However, by their very nature, bad habits can sometimes be very difficult to control and eradicate.

 

Experience shows that traditional corporal punishment - applied sensibly, firmly and fairly - can be immensely effective in jolting a recipient into amending her behaviour. 

 

A key reason is that a spanking or caning both hurts and humbles.  A pupil with a really silly and immature bad habit is forced to re-evaluate her views if she finds herself across her tutor's knee with her bottom bared and being spanked.  In such a position she can no longer defiantly "stand on her dignity" - indeed, in order to salvage her dignity, she has to admit that she fully deserves to be punished and show that she accepts her punishment bravely and with good grace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There may be other cases in which a pupil shows herself to be too complacent or arrogant to address a serious problem.  The situation may then have to monitored to establish the full nature and frequency of the problem.  After being warned, the pupil may find herself being "put on report for persistent misbehaviour".  This is serious.  A caning certainly hurts and humbles; and 12 strokes of a swishy cane given through a thin pair of trousers can hurt quite a lot.  Not to cause any real harm, of course, but to create a very subdued pupil with a fiercely smarting bottom that has some stripes across it for a short while.

 

A caning for "persistent behaviour" gives a pupil a very effective jolt; and makes her very subdued and receptive to changes in her behaviour.  It is, of course, very important that she understands precisely why she deserves and needs to be punished with a caning; and that she reconciles herself to accepting the punishment bravely and with good grace.  

 

 

"I've been thinking about this ABC System"

"Oh yes?"

I've been wondering.  Do you think it would work for me?  Do you mind me asking?"

"No, I don't mind at all."

"Thanks.  So what do you think?"

"Well, first of all, do you mind being spanked?  Because if you object to that it's obviously a no-no."

"Yes, I realise that. I suppose I've got mixed feelings, really."

"Go on."

"Well, it's never happened to me, so, obviously, I'm a bit nervous about it"

"Fair enough.". 

"But I'm certainly curious."

"Do you mean just curious or, perhaps, more intrigued?"

"I'm interested.  Quite a bit, actually..  The thing is that I've a feeling it might do me a lot of good.  It also ties in with a feeling I sometimes get that I really ought to be punished for something, and it would be a great relief it I was."

"Yes, I sometimes feel like that as well."

"Do you?"

"Yes.  But of course I don't go around telling people."

"No, of course not."

"It has to be kept private."

"Yes."

"Okay, well it sounds as if you think being spanked is worth considering."

"Oh definitely.  A bit more than that, really, but I'd like to know more about it."

"Okay, we'll come back to that.  First, another key question for you.  Or rather two.

First, do you think you've got any bad habits? 

Second, do you quite often get annoyed and frustrated with yourself?"

"Yes to both."

"In that case, you're a prime candidate for the ABC system.  Bad habits can be very difficult to break, and you're probably not even aware of many of them - because they've become second nature.  The ABC System concentrates on rooting out bad habits which are the underlying cause of problems."

"Oh, well that sounds very useful."

"And very often, it's the bad habits that cause the problems that make you annoyed with yourself."

"That makes sense."

"So, if you can cope with the discipline, I'd say you should definitely be thinking of joining the ABC System."

"I wonder if I might actually like the discipline.  It's quite good to have high standards, and have somebody watching you to make sure you keep up to them."

"That's a fair point"

"Obviously it's not very pleasant when you break the rules, and get into trouble, but, in general, it's good to know you have high standards. You can feel proud."

"You might also find that you feel proud that you've accepted a punishment well, and with good grace."

"Really?"

"Yes, it can be pretty horrible having to turn up to a review meeting knowing that you're going to get told off and punished; but, once it's over, you feel proud that you've accepted your punishment properly."

"Are you saying that you can feel proud after a getting a spanking?  I think I'd feel very subdued and ashamed of myself; quite apart from the fact that I imagine my backside would be sore and smarting."

"If the punishment is fair, and you know you've deserved it, you'll probably find that it's precisely because you've accepted being ashamed and subdued and having your bottom smacked that you recover your pride again."

"Oh."

"I always feel very relieved when I've got through a caning, but I also feel proud of myself for taking it well and really gratedul to ST for dealing with me so well."

"That's very interesting."

"You'll probably feel the same, if you do it."

"I'm not sure about the cane.  I don't think I'd want that."

"I didn't want it to start with, either. But I came round to the view that it might be very effective for me.  And that's what I've found."

"Do you get it on the bare?"

"No, he thinks it's best to use it across a thin pair of trousers with nothing underneath."

"I bet it still hurts, though."

"It certainly does; but I can cope and it's a very good punishment.  It really gives me a jolt. The thing is that you don't just get whacked.  It's part of a sort of ritual which is all done very politely, quite formally, and makes everything seem inevitable.  Once you're told you're going to get the cane, that's it. There's no escape.  You get a lecture, and then maybe some lines which you have to write and then recite.  Then you get sent to stand outside in the hallway and wait to be called in.  The waiting is really nerve-wracking.  You can see and hear the room being prepared and you know you're really for it. When he finally calls you in, with your nerves on edge and feeling totally subdued and submissive, he tells you to go and face a chair and then bend over.  You have to bend right down and stretch to grip some low struts on the chair; and you rest your forehead on the seat. It means your bottom's stetched tight, and sticking up for him to aim at, and you feel completely vulnerable and crushed.  And then you get the first stroke and - God - it hurts.  You always try to imagine what it's going to feel like, and hope you can cope, but the first stroke is always far worse than you've imagined.  It's different from any other pain you've ever experienced.  Then you have to count it out loud, say why you got it, and brace yourself to get 11 more.  The standard caning is 12 strokes.  You think you'll never get through it; but you always do.  Then, once it's over, you start to feel very relieved, proud and, actually, really grateful to ST for punishing you so effectively and also safely, of course."

"Heavens.  That's certainly given me something to think about.  It sounds rather exciting, actually."

"It feels very much like a punishment at the time."

"Yes, I'm sure it does."

"It's not a game."

"No.  Do you get other spankings on the bare?"

"It's entirely up to you, more or less.  He'll do what works best for you.  If you want to keep some clothes on, that's fine.  If you think you need a bare-bottom, over-the-knee spanking. he'll give you that."

"What implements does he use, apart from the cane?"

"A wooden clothes brush and a belt-strap made of leather.  He also has a light strap which he sometimes uses on your hands - for instance, if you fidget when you're standing in tjhe corner."

"I think I'd feel very small if I had to go and stand in the corner."

"That's the point of it.  He makes you keep your forehead pressed against the wall so you can't move and you feel totally under control.  It makes you feel very subdued - but that can be a very good thing.  Mind you, the time does seem to pass very slowly when you're standing in the corner.  It seems to last for ever."

"I suppose that might be good for me, though.  What about lines?  Isn't it rather tedious having to write them; and actually rather humiliating."

"He would say 'humbling' rather than 'humiliating', but the answer is yes.  However, he's very good at setting lines which make you focus on what you've done wrong and why you're being punished.  They tie in well."

"What about the ABC reports?"

"They're very short and to the point.  The only problem with doing them is that you have to face up to what you've done wrong and the fact that you're going to get punished."

"It's certainly very interesting.  Tell me, though, do you think a spanking would do me good?"

"Probably, but I'm sure that several would."

"Charming."

"Well you did ask.  And, to be honest, I think you should also let him use the cane."

"You think I'm that bad, do you?  But from what you've said, I suppose you might be right.  Anyway, thanks for your advice,  I'm really grateful."

"Let me know if you take it further - but not the details, they're private."

"Sure, and thanks again."

 

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This is for illustration, but some people may find it interesting and helpful.  I hope so. 

 

Further questions can be raised openly or in private.

 

 

 

The Role of Fantasies

Posted on 24th March, 2017

A pupil may sometimes fantasise about being punished in a particular way, but without her necessarily wanting it to happen for real.

 

This does no harm; and it may be that some aspect of a real punishment reminds her of her fantasy and makes the punishment even more effective.

 

There is no limit to the imagination but here are three illustrations:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In reality, punishments can often be very effective when given through clothing and, as I have said elsewhere, the cane generally works best through a thin protective layer that guards against superdficial skin damage.

 

However, it must be admitted that, on occasion, a fairly lengthy, but not excessively hard, bare-bottom spanking, given across the knee, does wonders for some grown-up girls.

 

There is no need to be shy.  It is best to be open with the Senior Tutor so that he can make adjustments that are tailored for each individual pupil.

Showing True Contrition

Posted on 9th December, 2014

If a pupil's misconduct is sufficiently serious to warrant a caning - or a formal spanking with a wooden clothes brush - she is expected to show true contrition when the punishment is administered. 

Saying "sorry" is all very well, but an action speaks louder than words. 

When the moment comes for her to bend over, she should strain to bend down very low so that her bottom is stretched as tightly-bent as possible.  This will maximise the sting from each stroke she receives.  It will also ensure that her bottom is thrust up in a prominent and convenient position for her tutor to aim and deliver the strokes. 

The pupil is thereby recognising the authority of her tutor and submitting to his discipline, but she is doing more than this. She is also acknowledging that the punishment is being given to her for her own good and she is givng her tutor her full co-operation in carrying it out.

In effect, the pupil is signifying: "I have misbehaved and I deserve and need to be punished.  Here is my bottom comveniently presented for you to place cane strokes across it, and tighly-rounded so that each stroke will sting to maximum effect."

The pupil is also tacitly acknowledging that she has no say as to precisely where on her bottom each stroke will land.  That depends on her tutor.

I believe that a pupil can bend over in a truly contrite manner while retaining her clothing for modesty.

Obviously, however, any clothing needs to be stretched tautly across her bottom so as not to impede the force of impact.

The cane is normally applied best across a tight trouser seat. The thin layer of cloth protects against superficial skin damage, and thus permits strokes to be given with a reasonable "follow-through". 

 

I suspect that the distinctive feature of a cane stroke is that the thin rod burrows deep into the soft tissue which protects the main nerve endings which lie deep inside the buttocks.  The force of impact creates heat close to the main nerve endings, which causes local blood vessels to dilate in order to carry the heat away.  However, the dilation of the blood vessels (with each heart beat) creates pressure on the main nerve endings - and causes the sensation of deep, throbbing pain which cannot be rubbed away.

 

This also explains why the cane hurts more when the recipient is reaching right down and tightly bent over. Bending over stretches the soft tissue and creates a thinner layer of protection for the main nerve endings.

Marks on the Bottom

Posted on 16th July, 2014

Ladies vary, but it should generally be possible to administer an effective spanking (with a flat instrument) without causing anything except temporary redness that should disappear overnight. 

 

Sometimes, the overlap of verious strokes may create a small patch of light bruising that lingers a little longer, but the mark will be faint and not distinctive.  It can be passed off as the result of a collision with the corner of a table etc.

 

For some ladies, it is vital not to be left with distinctive marks.  In such cases, the Senior Tutor takes great care to comply with the requirement.

(This can be done without undressing - with the pupil merely reporting the physical effects of a spanking.)

 

It may also be possible to administer an effective caning withour leaving lasting marks. This will depend, in part, on the pupil's constitution; but the main thing is to use a light cane, with only moderate force and not much follow-through, through a layer of clothing.  (The clothing protects against superficial skin damage). Again, the Senior Tutor will take great care in this matter, according to the circumstances.

 

After a pupil has been dismissed (and said "thank you") she goes straight to the bathroom to compose herself.  While she is there, of course, she can inspect her marks in a mirror. (If she feels the need, she can also douse a towel in cold water and press it against her bottom to ease the hot stinging.)

 

Sometimes, a pupil expects to be left with cane marks that take a couple of days or so to fade. She can view them when she goes to bed at night, and when she gets up in the morning, and remind herself that she has been soundly punished for having been a naughty girl.   

 

Where the authorised and agreed punishments for a pupil include both a caning and a bare-bottom spanking, the caning may sometimes be given first.  The cane is normally given through clothing.

 

Sometimes a lady may deliberately wear a tight skirt on the day after she has been caned, and get a frisson from people looking at the seat and not knowing about the cane stripes across her bottom.

 

 

 

 

 

Preserving Modesty: Keeping Clothes On

Posted on 31st May, 2014

To some pupils, modesty is very important - either initially or in principle.  The Senior Tutor, and the ABC System, caters for this.

A pupil may elect to receive corporal punishment (on her bottom) through clothing.  No undressing is required.

Provided that suitably thin and reasonably tight clothing (trousers, leggings or skirt) is worn over the bottom, a spanking (or caning) can be administered thoroughly and effectively.  The strokes will be made a little harder to compensate for the protection.

A pupil who keeps all her clothes on will still feel very chastened after she has been made to bend over to have her bottom soundly smacked.

 

TO EMPHASISE:

A lady may enrol as a pupil of the Senior Tutor under the ABC system on the basis that either initially, or permanently, she will NOT be required to bare her bottom, or otherwise remove appropriate clothing, in order to receive corporal punishment.

 

Similarly, a new pupil is normally excused from receiving the cane unless and until it has been agreed that she now needs it and is ready for it.

 

Conversely, of course, the Senior Tutor accepts that some pupils require an otk bare-bottom spanking as a re-assuring and affectionate form of punishment, especially if they are feeling wretched about something.

Yet other pupils, may need to be caned, then sent to stand in the corner displaying the cane marks across their bottom, to help correct especially wilful and stubborn misbehaviour which has become persistent.

 

The Senior Tutor tailors a disciplinary regime which best meets the requirements of each individual pupil.  

How Hard Should a Spanking Be?

Posted on 25th May, 2014

How hard should a spanking be?

It varies.

An OTK hand-spanking may not consist of particularly hard smacks, but there could be quite a lot of them.  The repetition of smacks on the same area builds up heat and stinging.  This could be a "loving" spanking - given to a pupil who feels especially wretched and foolish about her misconduct.

A prolonged spanking given with a solid object, and where the strokes are applied hard and with "follow through", should generally be avoided as there is a serious risk of bruising.

In my view, an especially punitive spanking should be given with a wooden clothes brush (or miniature cricket bat used for autographs), and the number of strokes should be determined in advance.  This permits for a controlled punishment where the strokes can be aimed at specific areas to spread them evenly across the pupil's bottom. 

Only the fleshy parts of the bottom should be struck.  Keep well below the level of the top of the crack.  How low to go is a matter of judgement; low strokes are not dangerous but can be very painful.

Twelve strokes is a good number.

The strokes should certainly not be applied ferociously - but they should be given quite a lot harder than the pupil would wish upon herself (at that moment).  They are punitive and should feel punitive.

A clothes brush spanking should make the pupil feel that her bottom is ablaze and it will be hot and stinging until bed-time. In time, however, the raging heat will subside into a rather pleasant warmth.

Pupils vary enormously.  Some will jump up and clutch their bottom.  Some will remain bending over, in position, until the punishment has been carried out.  The punishment may be equally effective on both types of pupil.

THE GOLDEN RULE is that the punishment has been imposed, and is being carried out, FOR THE PUPIL'S OWN GOOD. It should be made duly punitive and effective; but it should never be more severe than the pupil (1) deserves; and (2) needs. 

 

Sometimes a pupil will take 12 strokes of the clothes brush very stoically without a murmur and without moving.  On being told to stand up, and then being told she is dismissed, she politely thanks the Senior Tutor and then walks slowly to the door, in a dignified manner, and leaves the room.

She goes straight to the ladies'. 

She puts a flannel in the wash basin and soaks it in cold water.  It will be a cold compress to cool the hot stinging in her bottom

While she waits for it to soak, she pulls her trousers down ... and she rubs ...

She was very brave and determined not to let the Senior Tutor see her making a fuss.  But goodness, how that clothes brush stings!

Standing in the Corner

Posted on 23rd May, 2014

 

Standing in the corner is an often-neglected part of discipline, but it plays a very important role.

 

The pupil should be required to keep her forehead against the wall, under pain of severe punishment if she disobeys.  (A strap across her hands may suffice as a summary punishment and warning; but, if she persists, the clothes brush or the cane would be warranted for serious disobedience.)

 

The point is that she must feel trapped and powerless.  If she feels wilful or rebellious the experience will be horrible for her.  However, if she surrenders and submits to standing in the corner, the experience is not too bad.  Tedious, but also calming and a good opportunity for reflection.

 

The corner forces her to confront the fact that she has been punished for her bad behaviour.

 

The experience is particularly punitive if she has just been caned or spanked and she is required to display the marks on her bottom while standing in the corner.  She can't shrug off that and pretend it never happened.

 

Keeping the forehead against the wall also keeps her head bowed - in shame that she has misbehaved and had to be punished.

 

That said, after a caning or formal spanking, the recipient may well find that the corner also provides her with a sanctuary in which she can recover and compose herself before she is dismissed.

 

A pupil who has just been caned or soundly spanked will have had a huge adrenaline rush.  She will be very aware that her bottom is smarting quite fiercely, but she will also feel immensely relieved that her punishment is over. She will also be feeling very proud that she took her punishment well, and did not make an undue fuss even though it hurt.  She will be feeling both elated that she has taken her punishment and subdued because she had misbehaved and had to submit to the humbling and painful experience of having her bottom smacked by a stern tutor.

 

Sometimes, as a variation, the corner can be used before a caning.

 

A Cunning Minx

Posted on 23rd May, 2014

 

Sometimes, a pupil may try to influence what happens at a Review Meeting.

If she is cunning enough, she might get away with it.

However, in this case, the Senior Tutor will quickly see that the jeans offer little protection.

The minx will be allowed to keep her jeans on; but the Senior Tutor will make sure that all the strokes are hard enough to give her a very sound punishment.